Chapter 1: The Call to Transformation

It’s time to embrace a new version of yourself—not because it’s the beginning of a new year, but because you deserve to break free from confining spaces that no longer serve you.

Sometimes, it feels like we’re trapped within an invisible boundary, afraid to step outside the limits set by others. Here’s the reality: when you restrict yourself to one identity and cease to evolve, you essentially cease to live. Let this serve as a reminder that you have the freedom to redefine who you are and how others perceive you—forget their judgments.

While working on the dedication page for our latest picture book, a memory of my eldest stepdaughter surfaced. It makes sense since the book is dedicated to her and her sister.

Ashton and I share such similarities that people are often surprised to learn we aren’t biologically related. Perhaps we were connected in a past life. She possesses a sharp wit and humor, along with a striking originality. When she sets her mind to something, she pursues it with passion and determination. Complimenting her feels like a reflection of my own qualities—it's a joy to celebrate her.

However, she also struggled with a habit that I’ve battled with myself: being a people-pleaser. From an early age, she prioritized others' feelings over her own, often suppressing her true emotions to maintain harmony.

At just four years old, she was already sacrificing her own needs.

The day I discovered she’d been hiding her true interests from me was eye-opening. “I’ve always loved mermaids,” she admitted, “but I thought it was your thing, so I never mentioned it.”

Ashton’s younger sister Brianna, a natural redhead with an angelic voice, embodies the spirit of Ariel from The Little Mermaid. My long-standing obsession with mermaids made bonding with Brianna a joy, and it felt right since Ashton and I had so many shared interests.

Yet, as I write this, I realize I’m unsure if Brianna even likes mermaids. Did she merely pretend to share my enthusiasm? stares blankly into space for an extended period

Regardless, Ashton’s revelation struck a chord in me. It may seem trivial that she liked mermaids, but it highlighted a significant parenting flaw: I had unintentionally pigeonholed my children.

The realization that it took her so long to voice her true feelings was devastating. It brought forth memories of moments when she may have felt excluded during our joyful experiences. I felt a wave of embarrassment for not being an accessible confidante, especially since I had always prided myself on our close relationship.

Then, I recognized another error—I was making this about me.

This experience wasn’t about my shortcomings; it was about Ashton’s growth. Instead of viewing her as a shy girl, I chose to see a young woman who had the courage to express her true interests. Perhaps she felt intimidated or feared rejection, yet she demonstrated love by putting her sister's interests first.

But it’s even more beautiful to witness her journey toward self-acceptance.

You don’t have to diminish yourself to make others happy. You can love someone deeply while still honoring your own desires.

The important takeaway is that, despite any guilt I felt, it was never my responsibility to define Ashton’s interests; that was hers to discover and articulate. She did just that—not just in this instance, but in many others. Standing ovation for her growth! She turns 22 soon, and I’m continually amazed by how much she has learned about life.

Now, let’s turn the focus back to you.

When I encourage you to reinvent yourself, I don’t necessarily mean a complete overhaul. The word "reinvent" can mean “to remake,” but it can also mean “to revive.” That second definition is what truly excites me.

Often, it’s less about change and more about acknowledging your true self—bringing to light the aspects of you that may have been hidden. It’s about being honest with who you’ve always been. Ashton didn’t suddenly develop a love for mermaids; she always had that passion—she just found the courage to express it.

Consider the parts of you that you’ve kept hidden, whether due to motherhood, a toxic relationship, a demanding job, or societal expectations. Uncover them! Revive or reinvent—whichever resonates with you—embrace your authentic self.

Remember, you are the architect of your own life. Stop allowing others to dictate who you should be.

Chapter 2: Discovering Your True Passions

The first video, "Reinvent Yourself: 10 Steps to Change Your Life or Career," offers insightful steps to initiate transformation and embrace your true passions.

In the second video, "3 Warning Signs It's Time to Reinvent Yourself," learn about the key indicators that signal a need for change in your life.