Understanding Highly Sensitive Personality

In 2023, an article in the Guardian titled “The Missing Personality Type” suggested that many might be highly sensitive. I concur with this view based on my observations. Psychologist Elaine Aron proposed that approximately 15–20% of the population qualifies as highly sensitive, although some estimates suggest this could be as high as 30%. HSPs exhibit a trait called ‘sensory processing sensitivity’ (SPS), which heightens emotional sensitivity and leads to a rich inner life, as well as increased physical sensitivity to the environment.

Due to this SPS, HSPs often experience somatic empathy — feeling what others feel, often more intensely than most people realize. This trait contributes to various characteristics typical of highly sensitive individuals, shaped by survival strategies that develop into our personality traits, such as:

Physically, you might: - Notice the atmosphere or tension in a room. - Feel drained in crowded environments. - Be overwhelmed by others' emotions, making it hard to engage with media like the news. - React more strongly to noise and light than those around you.

Emotionally, you may: - Be attuned to the emotions and needs of those around you. - Take on the role of mediator to avoid conflict or please others. - Encounter numerous narcissistic personalities or “energy vampires.” - Struggle to say no or establish healthy boundaries, often leading to people-pleasing behavior.

The origins of being a highly sensitive person can stem from various factors: - A naturally sensitive disposition. - Trauma exposure during life that enhances sensitivity. - Potential past life experiences that may influence current sensitivity.

These layers suggest that an HSP's experiences can arise from multiple sources.

Trauma Symptoms and Sensitivity

The relationship between trauma symptoms and sensitivity is complex. Does inherent high sensitivity predispose individuals to trauma symptoms due to an easily overwhelmed nervous system? Or does childhood trauma influence sensory development and heighten sensitivity? Research remains inconclusive.

I believe that HSPs or neurodiverse individuals may be more prone to trauma symptoms due to the intensity of everyday sensory experiences. This can overwhelm the nervous system, highlighting the importance of self-regulation practices. Techniques such as breathwork, humming, and somatic grounding exercises can assist in managing overwhelm, particularly when trauma is involved. For additional resources, check out my free booklet on helpful tools.

Moreover, trauma responses can sometimes be inherited. Research into intergenerational trauma reveals that experiences of past familial trauma can impact mental health in subsequent generations. Understanding this can explain why some emotional responses may feel unfamiliar yet are deeply felt due to heightened sensitivity.

Many may unknowingly live with trauma symptoms triggered by everyday situations. I believe that many mental health challenges stem from unprocessed trauma, manifesting as anxiety, panic, or chronic overwhelm. Trauma can disrupt the parasympathetic nervous system, preventing a return to rest and relaxation. Remember that trauma symptoms exist on a spectrum, and seeking support can lead to transformative healing.

The Landscape of Neurodiversity

Approximately 30% of the population identifies as neurodiverse, often accompanied by heightened sensory sensitivity. The traits associated with neurodiversity can manifest differently in individuals. For example, dyslexia may present mild challenges, while autism may involve strong responses to stimuli.

Here are some overlapping traits associated with sensitivity: - Autism: Increased awareness and reactions to sensory stimuli. - ADHD: Heightened sensitivity to emotional environments and distractions. - Dyslexia: Variations in sensory processing leading to overload. - Sensory Processing Sensitivity: A heightened awareness of sensory input and a deep appreciation for arts and nature.

While I recognize my own sensory sensitivity, I also see distinct separations between my HSP traits and dyslexia. The intersection of trauma and neurodiversity is complex. Trauma specialist Gabor Maté suggests that ADHD may originate from developmental delays rooted in family stress. This theory resonates with some but not all, as individuals may display ADHD traits regardless of their home environment.

Understanding neurodiversity may lead to insights for those who suspect they may be navigating these experiences. Many women, in particular, find relief upon receiving late diagnoses of ADHD or autism, allowing for better access to support and understanding from those around them. However, there may also be grief associated with missed opportunities for earlier support.

Intuitive or Psychic Sensitivity

During a challenging period in my life, marked by trauma symptoms, I began experiencing heightened intuition and visions. A supportive note from my husband at the time reminded me to stay grounded despite the overwhelming experiences. As I processed trauma, I uncovered memories from both this life and possibly past ones, leading to a deeper awareness of spiritual guidance.

While not everyone experiences psychic sensitivity, some individuals might find their sensitivity extends beyond the material world. If this resonates with you, it’s essential to embrace your unique journey and explore your gifts. Although I am not formally trained in shamanism, many clients recognize my work as healing in nature, suggesting that we may have roles to fulfill based on our past experiences.

Reflecting on a session with a healer during my crisis, he assured me of eventual healing. Though I struggled with fear during that time, his words emphasized that enduring challenges often lead to greater strength and purpose. This journey, while arduous, has a significant purpose: by healing ourselves, we become equipped to help others.

Embracing Complexity

Each person’s experience of sensitivity is unique, shaped by various influences. The insights shared here represent my journey of understanding and healing. Recognizing the gifts that sensitivity brings can lead to profound self-discovery. Wherever you are in this exploration, be prepared for a journey that unearths the answers you seek.

Further Reading

Traits of Highly Sensitive People

Nicole Drummond, Intuitive Therapist for Highly Sensitive People and mentor to Souls with a Mission www.nicoledrummond.com